Dear Baby, 

How do you make someone who isn't going through this understand when you can't put it into words yourself?

Infertility is a painful struggle. The pain is similar to loosing a loved one, but it is unique because it is a recurring grief. When a loved one dies, they aren't coming back. There is no hope that they will come back from the dead. You must work through the stages of grief, accept that you will never see this person again, and move on with your life.

The grief of infertility is not so cut and dry. We grieve the loss of the baby that we may never know.  We grieve the loss of that baby who would have had moms nose and daddy's eyes.  Every month, there is the hope that maybe that baby will be conceived after all.  No matter how hard we try to prepare ourselves for bad news, we still hope that this month will be different. Then, the bad news comes, and the grief begins again.  This process happens month after month, year after year. It is like having a deep cut that keeps getting opened, just when it starts to heal.

We just can't explain this to people but we hope they never feel this pain themselves. 

Love, Mom x